ARTICLES

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL RISKS OF WEALTH

Posted on Feb 4th, 2019 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In this article I want to touch a psychology effect of wealth. Scientists found that children from homes with an annual income of more than £100,000 were suffering anxiety, depression and somatic symptoms twice as often in comparison to their peers. Also children from multi-generational wealth are more at risk for criminal behavior, eating disorders, and addictive disorders. It is important to emphasize that it is not the wealth per se causing the higher risk of mental disorder development but…

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PART II: WHAT HAPPENS WITH CHILDREN WHO WERE RAISED BY A NARCISSIST IN ADULTHOOD?

Posted on Jan 22nd, 2019 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Family system good or bad influences our personality, the way we see the world and feel about ourselves. Unfortunately being raised by the narcissist parent is a tough spot to be in. You are probably dragging with yourself a very negative perception of you which influences a lot of areas in your life. In this article we will take a look on the hardships that comes from being raised by the Narcissist. Pain from upbringing Having to accept that your parent doesn’t love you like other…

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PART I: BEING RAISED BY A NARCISSIST

Posted on Jan 22nd, 2019 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Narcissism runs on a spectrum, from healthy narcissism to malignant narcissism, with a lot of gray in between. Narcissistic people suffer tremendously from their childhood trauma and this pain is too much for them to carry, so they pretend it’s not there or they keep lashing out on other people to ease their own pain. Narcissism doesn’t have to be absolute. It can show up in little ways and often under the guise of doing “what’s best” for your children. It tends to play out…

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OVERLOOKED SYMPTOMS OF ANXIETY

Posted on Dec 28th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

There is a lot written about anxiety and its symptoms. In my work, I notice few more indicators or symptoms that occurred often together with the anxiety. I decided to list them below. It doesn't mean that you will have all the symptoms but it can help knowing that it's not so uncommon to experience the following: »I will die, go crazy or have heart attack« this is an obsessive thought that is common with anxiety. With time you will realize that nothing serious will happen while having…

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HOW TO TRUST YOUR BODY AFTER (PSYCHOLOGICAL) ILLNESS

Posted on Dec 27th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In this article I want to write what I experienced through my own personal story and as well through the stories of my clients. The loss of trust in your own body. I want to point out two ways that I notice this can happen. The first one is the loss of trust after psychological disorder, mainly anxiety, because anxiety usually hits our body first. Meaning, we all the sudden feel like we are going to die. I believe all individuals with panic attacks were at some point 100% convinced that there…

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REMEMBERING TRAUMA DURING PREGNANCY AND PARENTHOOD

Posted on Dec 23rd, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Pregnancy is a time when our body and minds go through changes. Most of this changes are out of our control-meaning our stomach and breasts are growing, our hormonal levels are changing and our body will push the baby out whether we like it or not. Body memory can be awaken when a woman’s body starts to change during pregnancy. Transformation to parenthood can evoke feelings and memories that we weren’t ready to deal with in the past or even memories that we didn’t realize that we have.…

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PART IV: INTERACTION BETWEEN BPD MOTHER AND CHILD

Posted on Dec 21st, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In this article (Part IV) I want to take a deeper look at some of the research that was done regarding relationship between Borderline parent and children in comparison to mothers that don’t suffer from BPD. Infants
 Studies have found that interactions between mothers with BPD and their baby are characterized by insensitivity, high levels of intrusion, and low levels of positive response to infant distress. Mothers with BPD smile less, touch and imitate their infants less, and play…

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PART III: TYPES OF BORDERLINE PARENT

Posted on Dec 20th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Experts wonders whether there are actually distinct types of borderline personalities. The minds are divided but experts still try to distinguish between the different types of BPD in academic literature as well as in popular one. In Part III we will take a look at both of them. Please note that this list of types serves as a guidelines and person who suffers from BPD can have a mix of everything. Popular Literature Dr. Christine Lawson in a book Understanding the Borderline Mother…

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PART II: DAMAGES OF GROWING UP IN BORDERLINE FAMILY

Posted on Dec 18th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In the title of this article I used the word “damage”. This word is a good description of how children that grew up in Borderline Families feel inside - damaged. Let’s go into details, what kind of emotions, feelings and actions are hidden behind this word. Many people in counseling who were raised by a borderline parent end up struggling with anxiety, low self-esteem, issues with trust and intimacy and difficulties being vulnerable with others. Mind reader Children of BPD parents…

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PART I: MY PARENT HAS A BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER (BPD)

Posted on Dec 17th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In this series of articles I won’t talk about BPD but I will focus on the dynamic that is created when you are raised by someone who is struggling with BPD. Until now there was a belief that more women than man suffer from BPD. That’s why I will talk about mothers in this articles. But lately there have been studies that have shown misdiagnosis in male population. It is now believed that percentage between man and women with BPD is close to equal. From the birth on, the connection between…

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NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER (NPD)

Posted on Nov 7th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Definition of Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) The term narcissism was first used in relation to human psychology by Sigmund Freud in his essay "On Narcissism" after the figure of Narcissus in Greek mythology (Golomb 2003: 18). The Myth: One day Narcissus was walking in the woods when Echo (mountain nymph) saw him, fell deeply in love, and followed him. Narcissus sensed he was being followed and shouted "Who's there?". Echo repeated "Who's there?" She eventually revealed her identity…

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LOSS IN CHILDHOOD, LOVE RELATIONSHIPS IN ADULTHOOD, part 3

Posted on Jun 13th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

There is not a lot written on how beavered children form romantic relationships as adults. In the final section of the article we will take a look at behaviors in relationships that can occur due to the loss of a parent during childhood. When a child looses his/her parent the connection between love and loss is no longer separated. “Deep down I believed that all man will eventually leave me.” was wrote by forum user who lost her dad. Research showed that many bereaved children are more…

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HOW DEATH OF A PARENT CAN TOUCH US, part 2

Posted on Jun 13th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In the second article I will explore what an effect can the death of a parent have on our emotional and mental health. Consequences can occur shortly after the death or later in life. It is important to know that psychological effects of a parent's death can occur long after feelings of grief are behind us and we seem to have adjusted to our lives.  Not everything is due to this one event but we can’t neglect the researches that show higher risk factor of developing disorders associated with…

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BEAVERED CHILD AND SURVIVING PARENT, part 1

Posted on Jun 13th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In this article we will touch very deep loss-the loss of a parent. It is hard to imagine how deep it cuts if you haven’t experienced it on your own skin. The best comparison I found was a comparison with a mountain climbing. Imagine that it is your first serious climb and you are accompanied by the professional climber. You rely on him with everything. He will show you the way, he will make sure that the way is safe, that you stay hydrated. In the middle of the mountain, your company dies.…

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AFTER BIRTH SUPPORT OPTIONS IN BERLIN

Posted on May 11th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In the spirit of my article Postpartum care and Eastern concept of “doing the month” in this article I am listing different types of care/help you can turn to during the postpartum period. Partner: Talk to him. Let him know what you need from him and were he needs to take over after the baby is born. Friends and family: If possible ask your family or friends to help you with cooking, cleaning and taking care of your older kids. Sometimes family can stress us out. It is important to…

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POSTPARTUM CARE

Posted on May 9th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

After the baby comes, attention shifts from you to your baby. In most cases even mom can only focus of taking care of the baby, but who is now focusing on her? It is very important that after birth you are your own number one advocate and you take good care of yourself. You don’t need anyone’s permission, that is your right. Taking great care after birth helps prevent postpartum depression, anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder. Furthermore, it helps your body to heal fully. I heard…

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EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL DIFFICULT PREGNANCY

Posted on May 8th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

This is an article for future moms who struggle with their pregnancy. I wanted to open up about a topic that is both close to my heart, and at the same time seems to be a taboo for pregnant women to talk openly about it. Although I don’t know about your experience, but when I was going through mine, many people “allowed” just one experience of pregnancy – the experience of joy. Every time I went off this script, I could see it in their faces - worry. Looking at me with the thought in…

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DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIPS

Posted on Apr 20th, 2018 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In my office I meet a lot of wonderful people. They often come to me because they are in a destructive relationship they aren’t able to get out of. Although they know pretty well that the relationship is not good for them. The combination of their nonfunctional behavior with partner’s destructive patterns create toxic codependent relationship. Codependency doesn’t only happen in a romantic relationship. It can occur in any type of a relationship, including family, work, friendship,…

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TWO LAYERS OF ANXIETY*

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

*the article is based on my private practice observations Anxiety is often a reason why people knock on my door. It is also the subject that I am most drawn to. That’s why I would like to write a short article based on my work experiences about dealing with anxiety. In short, I approached anxiety in two levels: Dealing with symptoms: In the Internet era, people educate themselves about panic attacks and how to ease symptoms. Consequently this level is the most accessible for…

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HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (*HSP)

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

In this article I will summarized the work of Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. book, The Highly Sensitive Person. In her psychotherapy practice she worked with HSP for decays and come to an interesting conclusions. In connection to anxiety: HSP often treats his high arousal as anxiety. He got false messages form the environment that unpleasantness he is experiencing (due to high arousal) is actually fear. Consequently when they get aroused (annoyed, tired…) that automatically triggers fear. Twenty…

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SKYPE THERAPY FOR PEOPLE WORKING IN HIGH STRESS ENVIRONMENT

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

People working in busy environment or dynamic cities like London, New York, Singapore, Zurich, Frankfurt, where is no shortage of qualified therapists, often choose online therapy due to its convenience and flexibility. The comfort of having the therapy in your office and not being forced to travel to therapist office often weigh towards online psychotherapy. Skype therapy has also turned out to be a great option for people whose part of their job is to travel. Regular therapy sessions are…

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LIVING ABROAD AND SEARCHING FOR A THERAPIST

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Adjustment to a new environment Cultural shock is a part of experience when you move abroad. Moving can be a stressful. You can never really prepare for the changes that you are going to face. Even if you are moving to a similar cultural background there will be some bumps along the road. If you are new to the language, this can only deepen the feelings of loneliness, isolation and stress. People forced to move when their spouse is transferred to a foreign country, with no job and limited…

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TRAPPED IN MY HOME

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Online psychotherapy is suitable for people who due to temporary or permanent reasons can’t go out of their (safe) environment. Temporary obstacles In this category I am including temporary situations that require people to stay at home. Here we can talk about different kind of physical injuries that needs longer period of time to heal as well as risk pregnancies and Postpartum (postnatal) depression and/or anxiety and/or obsessive compulsive disorder. In the last case, due to a newborn…

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DOES ONLINE PSYCHOTHERAPY WORKS?

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

I got a lot of positive response from my clients. I got more skepticism form coworkers or people who haven’t tried skype therapy jet. I believe any form of therapy has its pros and cons and I don’t find online therapy any different. In my psychotherapy education I was told that skype therapy doesn’t work, that it is not the same as face to face and mostly I hear comments like that form colleagues. But I decided to give it a try before I made my own decision. In my experience, online…

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TYPES OF ANXIETY

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

Types of anxiety Description Panic disorder Panic attack feels like sudden attacks of terror which normally peaks within 10 minutes, but some symptoms may linger much longer. Attack can occur at stressful times or it isn’t connected to any particular situation. Many people have just one panic attack. In this case we can’t talk about panic disorder. Common symptoms: pounding heart, sweating, weakness, faintness, dizziness, flush or feel chilled, tingle or numb hands, nausea, chest…

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POSTPARTUM ANXIETY

Posted on Jul 13th, 2016 - By ebba - 0 Comments

With a new baby in the house some worries are expected. Especially if it is our first born. But what if worries are persistent and with little base ground? Probably you already heart about postpartum depression, but what about postpartum anxiety? According to Germany University of Heidelberg, 11% of mothers developed postpartum anxiety, while 6% developed postpartum depression. Overall this affects 1 out of every 7 women. Unfortunately, postpartum anxiety and depression often occurs together.…

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