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Moving abroad and living away from my family taught me one thing: Friends relationships are important asset to my well being. Friends relationships are as important as any other relationship. I come to the idea in 2019 that it is important to give them the same stage in counseling as we give to the romantic and parents’ relationships.

Structure of friendship counseling:

1. History review: In initial sessions, the focus is on the concern and its impact. We talk about the nature, duration, and quality of the friendship, what changed, and how differences started causing conflicts between you and your friend.

2. Dealing with emotional challenges: We will explore how you are dealing with the concern, how it is affecting you as a person, and what are the emotional consequences. Usually we were able to express our emotions to our friend, but because of the existing conflict we probably cannot express it fully anymore. During the therapy I create a safe space where both sides can express their emotional states regarding the setback.

3. Building awareness: In a therapy session, psycho-education and building awareness is an important part. A counselor helps to delve deeper into ideas of friendship, expectations, attachment style, boundaries and (un)met emotional needs.

4. Follow-up: Follow-ups are aimed to see how your friendship is doing after counseling and to work on any potential setbacks.

In case you are having trouble in an important relationship with a friend and you would like to work things through in safe environment please feel free to contact me through this form.

Please note that unfortunately I don’t offer coverage through your health insurance (“Versicherung”) for counseling sessions.